Thursday, 02 July 2009
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Man In The Mirror
My mom tells me that her favorite Michael Jackson song is Man in The Mirror. Listening to the lyrics, I can't understand why. Isn't that song about taking responsibilty for your own actions?
Earlier this week, Sunday to be exact. My mom and I went to church together. Before church, she was trying on clothes and many of her outfits were too tight. She then goes on to say, "Well it's all your fault for not helping me to lose weight." Wtf. My mom is retired and doesn't do anything all day. But it's all my fault??? I didn't know working out was a team effort. I just can't win for losing with my mom. I never do anything right. I don't clean how she likes it. I don't remind her to work out. Is that really my responsibility? I don't think so. I ask for her to make healthier foods. She makes what she likes. I ask for her to not bring cakes home constantly and not buy ice cream. She tells me to have self control and does it anyway. I learned to practice better self control and have maintained my weight.
But it's my fault she has gained weight. It's not my fault she has to eat everytime she smells food.
Scratching my head, yeah.....this isn't making much sense right? It doesn't make much sense to me either.
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Comments (4)
pointing of fingers. I hate that, but sometimes, I just keep the reality of things to myself. I shall share with you. Remember when someone points at you, save any missing fingers, there are 3 fingers pointing back at themselves. While I shake my head, it's comforting to know that they're really just trying to point a finger but most of the blame lies on themselves. Good luck w/ trying to help her get to where u are. Next time I'm in ATL, we'll have to have a GA meet up...
in situations like that, i just try to remind myself that it's always easier to push the blame towards someone or something else and then let that epiphany reinforce my actions.
for the people who like to shift responsibility, i truly think that deep down they are aware of their reality, yet fail to do something about it and mask that failure by placing blame on any and all besides themselves--in a false sense of feeling good.
my dad is diabetic, but good luck getting him to eat right and take care of himself!
you just gotta learn that you can't make anyone do something that they don't want to do. it does get frustrating (like when we buy low-fat, sugar-free foods, but then he goes and buys the regular stuff anyway), but you will drive yourself crazy trying to please someone that is never satisfied.
I really hope ur mom was saying that in jest, but I do find that people lose weight more when they have someone holding them accountable. At any rate, your suggestions might be too soft. I had 2 learn the hard way that just becasue you say something doesn't make it so. If u don't say it forcefully, with power and as if it is going 2 affect change--people will often hear you but won't listen and may often times not even count it as spoken.
its rude but its reality. At the end of the day people will screw themselves into unwanted pregnancies, eat themselves into a size 22 dress and laze themselves into poverty so your job is to discern wether or not you're going to lend them to that reality or fight 4 them. Pick your battles...
Often times I choose not to fight, but Im a complete ass hole- I don't mind watching u fall apart if I've already given you the keys to remain in tact. thats just me though.