Friday, 19 June 2009
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Everyone's Doormat
I'm a nice person. But I'm really starting to recognize how much people take advantage of that quality. I used to feel bad about saying no. That's a flaw that people easily abuse. Always calling for favors but being MIA when I need something in return.
I have to get more aggressive. I'm no one's doormat and I'm not going to get where I want continuing to be. Especially for the sake of my dating life. Being non confrontational is hurting my career and my dating relationships because I don't articulate what I want.
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i've read your last 4 posts and i love ur writing style. ur very open and honest and simple. very refreshing.
I feel you all the way on that...
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I feel you on this too! I've learned that unfortunately, unless you're Obama, nice people don't finish first...they finish last...so you gotta be more agressive...thats the way the system works
I can't stand coming across these people, and it's even worse when they're your family.
I experienced this from time to time with my friends and family. Oh, and don't tell them no, they will dog you out behind your back and pretend like they're always there for you. "I called J and asked her for a favor, she told me no. I always help her when she need my help." Bullsh*t!
Im all for you not being anyone's doormat anymore.
during Form 1 to Form 3, i really had great friends
but since Form 4, i was being taken advantage (with the new people i met), that hurt, but i learnt.
tho the great friends i met since Form 1 are still the nice ones
@ISpeakLife - Thanks so much! I completely appreciate it.
@jackie9714_rocks - Having the right people in your life always makes it so much better.
@JeNeSaisQuoi86 - Well, I've decided that since they will talk about you regardless, it's best to do what you want in the long run.
@manofcivility - Some people are masters at using others. Sucks.
@HeadStrongChica - Even Obama is aggressive. He may be nice but I don't see him allowing anyone else the chance to make him do something he doesn't want to.
@dadj_21 - Thank you.
i haven'tbeen on xanga and just realised your my xanga friend. hi haha. i'd like to comment on doormat as i'm permitted jk. my oldest brother is like that, very calm and thorough. i wish i was careful. anyway it's a very respectable quality since people expect things of you but holding your ground is also important. good luck and turn your nose up haha that would be pretty hilarious.
like this post, and the one before it
I know how you feel and I am currently working on the same thing too. A lot of people see me as a doormat because I am such a nice easy-going person.