My mom tells me that her favorite Michael Jackson song is Man in The Mirror.  Listening to the lyrics, I can't understand why.  Isn't that song about taking responsibilty for your own actions?

Earlier this week, Sunday to be exact.  My mom and I went to church together.  Before church, she was trying on clothes and many of her outfits were too tight.  She then goes on to say, "Well it's all your fault for not helping me to lose weight." Wtf.  My mom is retired and doesn't do anything all day.  But it's all my fault??? I didn't know working out was a team effort.  I just can't win for losing with my mom.  I never do anything right.  I don't clean how she likes it.  I don't remind her to work out.  Is that really my responsibility?  I don't think so.  I ask for her to make healthier foods.  She makes what she likes.  I ask for her to not bring cakes home constantly and not buy ice cream.  She tells me to have self control and does it anyway.  I learned to practice better self control and have maintained my weight. 

But it's my fault she has gained weight.  It's not my fault she has to eat everytime she smells food. 

Scratching my head, yeah.....this isn't making much sense right?  It doesn't make much sense to me either.

I'm a nice person.  But I'm really starting to recognize how much people take advantage of that quality.  I used to feel bad about saying no.  That's a flaw that people easily abuse.  Always calling for favors but being MIA when I need something in return.

I have to get more aggressive.  I'm no one's doormat and I'm not going to get where I want continuing to be.  Especially for the sake of my dating life.  Being non confrontational is hurting my career and my dating relationships because I don't articulate what I want.